depression, Fibromyalgia/CFS, Life

WHY ??????

This morning this came across my Facebook feed and reminded me of why I started this blog in the first place


How often have you heard some one say….. I’ll do that when the kids start school? When the kids leave school? When they move out? When I retire? One day? Or worse still, how many times have you said it yourself?

What the hell are we waiting for?????

We are all given one life, how do we know what the future really holds? We don’t ! We have no idea what our health will be like when we retire. Or what the world will throw at us in the meantime .

Yes, we have to earn a living, that goes without saying. We need to be able to house, clothe and feed ourselves and our families. But where is it said that you don’t get to live while doing so?

So many of us get caught up in the treadmill of going about our days on a “need to” basis. We don’t take the time to evaluate until it is forced on us, by illness, divorce, loss of a job or the death of someone close to us.

It took me falling apart so badly for me to say ‘hang on, this isn’t right’! Yes I had to make some major changes, for the better to allow myself to be well. But I also chose to change my attitude to life and how I live it. I consciously now have a better work/life balance. I take the time to do things just for me. They are not necessarily big dollar things, just being able to take the time with my plants, my children, my grandchildren without the feeling of always rushing, always on the go…..being able to say no when I need to and yes when I want to, trust me, that in itself was hard to learn without guilt. Once I realised that being selfish about myself and my time wasn’t being mean to others, but being kind to myself, it became easier and easier to do.

I have taught myself to live a ‘want to’ life, not a ‘need to’ one. I have decluttered my home, my belongings and my mind. I now only have things in my home that I use, need or love. It is a bit of a sanctuary for me that I really love spending time alone in. I have learnt to like my own company, but love my family and friends. I haven’t locked myself away or anything like that, but by getting to really know myself has only made me a better person with more to offer those around me.

Please, if you do nothing else, write a list of the things you wish to do and prioritise it. It may take baby steps at first to get through that list, but what else are you going to do? Wait? For what?

Make sure you also set aside a little time each day to stop, breathe and do absolutely nothing.

Grab hold of your life with both hands…….time goes by so fast…..get out and live it.

Because life won’t wait.



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