depression, Fibromyalgia/CFS

The Too Hard Basket

I was asked, by a very good friend last week what I was doing about my health. While her intentions were good and I know that to be true, her judgment may be a little misguided.

I have not just taken one persons word on this. There are many fingers in the pie that is my health care. It’s just that sometimes you just get so fed up with dealing with it……you try not to think about it and put it in the too hard basket. To be truly honest, I put myself in the basket on a regular basis, there are some days when it’s just too overwhelming. But…… I crawl back out, brush myself off and keep going.

My health care team consists of my GP, a rheumatologist, a neurologist, my psychologist, a physiotherapist and those that know me very well will find this funny…….a dietitian πŸ˜±πŸ˜‚ Along with those I have seen a naturopath, I have regular massages when my body will tolerate them, I have tried acupuncture and have regular blood work done.

Have I just blindly believed one source? No.

Have I learnt to accept that my health will fluctuate? Yes.

Over the last couple of years I feel like people have put me in their too hard basket. It’s much easier for others to deal with that way I guess. Unfortunately from my point of view it makes me feel useless and somewhat invisible at I time when I need that the least. This is one of those instances where you need to just accept what you may not be able to understand.

Please, and not just for me, but for anyone that is dealing with an illness of some kind, whether it be physical or mental, don’t put them in that basket. It’s a very lonely place to be. There are people out there dealing with illnesses much worse than mine. Those that are terminal with no hope, those who are quietly disappearing with Alzheimers and dementia, no matter what it is we all need to be respected and treated as whole.

So next time you are unsure how to respond to someone listen, really listen……..even when they are quiet.





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